Weddings

It sounds pretty mad but I’d say if you teach in China on a 10 month contract it’s a pretty safe bet you will attend at least one Chinese wedding. I managed 3 during my first year and in total have been to 6 compared with only 2 that I’ve attended in England. If you are working at a primary school it’s likely that most of your colleagues will be women between the ages of 25-35, if any of the them have boyfriends there will be plans to get married imminently and they usually invite everyone from work, it’s a great experience and certainly something you’ll remember.

My advice would be to ask around before you go because I embarrassingly wore a suit to the first wedding I went to, the only other person that was wearing a suit was the groom. The best man had a Brazilian football shirt on which gives you an idea of the dress code. It’s not a particularly formal occasion and usually begins in the morning with the groom going to the bride’s parents house to pick his soon to be wife up…literally that is. The tradition is to carry the bride to the car from her house without her feet touching the ground; there are usually fireworks and banger being set off throughout. In my apartment complex I once saw a very weedy guy struggling to carrying a pretty large bride however the Chinese are not ones to shy away from tradition so 3 men carried her down to the car, I’m sure she felt great. There seems to be some sort of handing over ceremony at the bride’s house where the groom must make a list of promises to his new parents in law to how he will take care of their daughter. This is usually turned into a humorous speech before the groom must perform various tasks set by the bride (usually singing or press ups) after all this the groom will give his in laws money. Then the bride is carried out to the car and they drive off to the ceremony, usually in the function room of a hotel or restaurant.

Not all Chinese weddings parties are particularly bothered by making it a private event as I have been to restaurants before just to have dinner and been sat at a table in the middle of a wedding . There was also a bus load of tourists there happy as Larry right smack in the middle of it talking loudly over the ceremony, not a hint of embarrassment.

The bride and groom usually employ somebody to film the journey from their house to the reception. The cameraman acrobatically hanging out of the car behind with his video camera whilst its moving…Wuhan isn’t exactly picturesque so imagine somebody filming you driving around the M25 and you get an idea to what the video might be like. Chinese people can be very cheesy when it comes to romance which is quite sweet and lovely compared to cynical view of many in England although I did go to one wedding which was opened by the groom singing a love song to the bride whilst walking down the aisle towards her, he cried from start to finish. Bit much.  After a short ceremony of around 30 minutes there is a dinner for all of the guests, which is great but then unfortunately that’s it. There’s no disco, party or anything like that. Once people have shovelled in their food their off home meaning the actual wedding lasts around 2 hours. It’s traditional to give the happy couple money in a red packet rather than a gift and if you’re going to a wedding of somebody who you know from work 100RMB would suffice which is around £10, maybe more for a better friend.

Well worth going!! Enjoy!!